Over the years I have been privileged to meet couples with various issues regarding their sexual relationship. The stories that couples tell me about their sexual difficulties vary, but most of them goes like this: He wants more sex and she doesn’t. He says he needs sex to feel close and she doesn’t see why her snuggling, cuddling and pecks she does around the house doesn’t do it for him. On the other hand, she says she needs to feel close first to have sex and he doesn’t see why sex doesn’t help her to feel close.
At the end of the day, she doesn’t see why sex is so important to him, anyway.
There are so many other things they do together as a couple that makes their relationship great that sex shouldn’t be as much of a priority. But after a while, she begins to wonder if there’s something wrong with her for not wanting sex and he also begins to wonder if something’s wrong with him for wanting sex as much as he does.
So the couple goes on like this, both wondering if something is wrong with them or the other one, and they grow more and more frustrated and distant. So it’s no wonder that many couples, and women especially, wonder if sex really is necessary for a happy marriage because it seems to just cause more problems.
So the woman says, 'If he could just learn to do without it, the problem would be solved'.
There are so many other things they do together as a couple that makes their relationship great that sex shouldn’t be as much of a priority. But after a while, she begins to wonder if there’s something wrong with her for not wanting sex and he also begins to wonder if something’s wrong with him for wanting sex as much as he does.
So the couple goes on like this, both wondering if something is wrong with them or the other one, and they grow more and more frustrated and distant. So it’s no wonder that many couples, and women especially, wonder if sex really is necessary for a happy marriage because it seems to just cause more problems.
So the woman says, 'If he could just learn to do without it, the problem would be solved'.
Sex is vitally important in marriage
According to a recent research and responses received, it was discovered that Sex is necessary for a happy marriage and the only thing you uniquely share with your spouse that you don’t share with anyone else is sex. So sex is the only thing that sets you and your spouse apart from simply being roommates. It’s a vital part of marriage.
Not only does sex set you and your spouse apart from simply being roommates, it also requires a deeper level of communication that you don’t normally do with just anyone. Sex requires you to talk to each other about intimate, emotional things. For example, to have a truly intimate experience with your spouse, you need to tell your spouse where you like to be touched, and make requests for certain things. This requires that you both feel a comfort level with each other that you’ve never felt with anyone else before. It requires you to both become very vulnerable by asking, receiving and giving sexually. And it requires you to reach a deeper level of trust that your spouse will respond to your requests without judgment.
Sex also creates passion and a unique connection
To be able to talk to your spouse in this kind of vulnerable, intimate way creates a unique connection that you simply can’t have with anyone else without becoming sexual. This kind of intimate talk and physical touch creates passion in your relationship, too. It tells your spouse you think of him or her as more than just a friend. You think of your relationship as something deeper. This unique connection that lovers share creates excitement, passion and romance between the two of you that you can’t create in any way other than sexually.
The technique or the number of times that you engage in sex or love making in a week is not my focus and whether you have sex two times a week or 10 times a week is irrelevant. What’s more important is that sex becomes an intimate and connecting experience for both of you. If this isn’t happening, then the marriage isn’t really happy.
So instead of couples arguing about sex and creating more distance, couples need to learn to really talk and communicate about sex. They also need to be open to hearing what their spouse wants, feels and needs. This is not only a recipe for great sex but a great marriage as well.
So instead of couples arguing about sex and creating more distance, couples need to learn to really talk and communicate about sex. They also need to be open to hearing what their spouse wants, feels and needs. This is not only a recipe for great sex but a great marriage as well.
Sex creates a strong bond between couples, it is a powerful tool in resolving conflict when properly utilized (talk about your disagreement, apologize where necessary and seal it up with love making☺).
Yes, Sex isn’t everything in a marriage, but for most people, a healthy, regular sex life matters quite a bit.
Wish you all a happy and fulfilling marriage!
Wish you all a happy and fulfilling marriage!
Great going sis. Congrats
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