Men treat your wife well with TLC (Tender Loving Care), your wife is a reflection of You. No matter how much you try to conceal the fact that your home is in disarray, it will surely keep rearing its head out for all to see through your wife.
To be an amazing and loving husband starts with putting your
wife first, and of course, vice versa. Below are a few things you can start
doing for your wife on a regular basis:
The physical needs between men and women differ. There are
various ways to be intimate so keep her needs in mind. Embracing or Cuddling is a good start.
* Don't expect your
wife to "owe you"
Now that the cuddling is over, it's your turn, am I right?
Although sexual intimacy is crucial in a happy marriage, your wife doesn't want
to feel like she owes you a favor. Kindly take note, let it come naturally from
her
* Bring home dinner or
fix one
If it's been a particular crazy day for your wife, the last
thing she wants to do is make dinner. Give her a night
off every once in a
while, either by bringing home some takeout or cooking yourself.
* Take the kids out
Speaking of hectic or crazy days, another sweet act you could often do
is taking the kids out for an hour or so. Whenever she is feeling overwhelmed, quickly
take the hint and let her have some quiet time.
* Be a gentleman
When you were dating, you did everything you could to woo
your wife. You carry her bag, open the door, visit the salon with her, take her
out on a date etc. Then, after marriage, it stopped. It doesn't take much
thought or energy to act like a man. Kindly revive any of this at least and
still be a gentleman that you are. Speak
kindly to her, about her and about others.
* Listen without
fixing
If you haven't seen the video about the nail in the forehead,
you must! It is ridiculous and illogical, but it is the truth. This is how
women work. Go against your every instinct, and just be there and listen.
* Compliment her
You think your wife is beautiful, you think she's funny, you
think she's smart. You admire her in so many ways. Have you told her lately?
Please do and see the magical effect.
* Pray with her
A good husband prays for his wife daily. A great husband
prays with her. A family that prays together stays together!
* Ask her out
One thing that gives her butterflies is when you call and ask
her out. It’s so much more romantic than a “Hello baby, it is raining here and am
feeling cold, need you to keep me warm”
* Date her
Now that you've properly asked her out, keep at it. Dating
does not need to be expensive. Whether it's dinner, and a movie, a walk
together or a night in after the kids are in bed, keep dating a consistent part
of your relationship.
* "Throw
chocolate and run"
You think I'm kidding but I'm not. This quote is funny
because it is so true. Maybe this has never literally happened to you. I mean,
it does make women sound like a wild zoo animal. But honestly, if you do this
to your wife, she won't be mad.
* Let her sleep
Mothers, especially those raising small children, are SO
incredibly tired. If you're home, let her take a nap. If it's feasible, let her
sleep in one day each weekend.
* Appreciate her
Often times, a wife and mother's work goes unnoticed. Maybe
you come home to a messy house. She probably cleaned it three or four times
already but you can't tell. Your dirty clothes magically appear in your closet
all clean and folded nicely. Perhaps she's gone eight hours a day and somehow
the bank account has some extra money in it. Let her know you appreciate all
she does for your family.
* Work hard
Just as she works hard for the family, you do too. Give
everything you can to your career, your kids, and especially to her.
* Encourage her
hobbies
It is not uncommon for a woman to forget about herself in
service to her family. Help her keep her identity by pushing her to do the
things she loves.
*Ask about her day
Each day when you finally get to connect, really ask how her
day was and see if she needs anything.
* Open up
Men don't generally like to look vulnerable. You want to be
tough mentally, physically, emotionally, etc. Your wife wants to know how you
are really feeling. Real communication is so important in marriage. Spill it
and get refreshed
* Apologize
When couples fight, women tend to fume on the inside until
the issue is talked through or resolved. If it's a big one, this might go on
for a while. Generally, men happen to forget about the issue or put it away for
a few hours or overnight. Then they forget about it. To them, the argument is
over. Meanwhile, unknown to them, their wife is still angry. Just apologize.
* Hold her hand
Maybe PDA (Public Display of Affection) isn't your thing and that's OK. Taking her hand in
yours is just a small physical gesture that shows her how important she is to
you.
* Respect her
Your wife has built in motherly and wifely (it's a new word)
instincts. Even if you don't agree with her opinion, you need to respect hers.
Then kindly discuss the best way to handle the situation.
How many of these
things are you doing as a husband? And how many could you work on?
Unveil the Charm in You
and keep Charming your spouse….
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