Spice Up Your Marriage with Romance...

As marrieds, we need to spice up our marriage on a daily basis to keep it glowing and blossoming.

Why is it that it comes so easy to show romance to each other during courtship and the story changes after marriage? Men especially stops all the sweet nothings they tell us, all the opening of doors to let us make our entry or exit first, frequent hang out at the beach and eateries, strolling and taking walk together, holding of hands and lots more......

Romance in marriages fads off few months after saying 'I do. No more handholding, cuddling, public display of affection.  However, all for some men, it is a way of life but majority ceases to do so after settling down....is it a result of the fact that they feel that 'She's mine now' and the woman too feels 'He's hooked with me for life' ...Hmmnnnn... 

Kissing, cuddling, hugging each other for example, should not be ceremonial (done only during anniversaries or when happy). It should be a way of life in the marriage not only when mating or copulating together.  Make your marriage fun and filled with romantic and memorable moments. 

Husband stop being stiff show some love to your spouse and vice versa. Don't let your wife start feeling strange when you come back home and make the move to kiss or hug her and she withdraws due to the fact that she is seeing it as as STRANGE rather let her get used to it. When same is done to you, kindly embrace and welcome it regardless of the situation in the office or in line of business. 

It is time to stop using our jobs, carrier & business as excuses for not doing the right thing.  Don't forget that when job, carrier, business leave us, the only thing by our side will be our spouse. 

The most important thing at that moment is your wife or husband, every other thing comes after. The good thing about being romantic is that it sets a good atmosphere for any issue to be thrashed.

The result is security, love, mutual respect in the marriage. You will be surprised that you both live healthier, worry less and fight less...lol.

For the men, it is a good ground for the battle field also ahead... Marriage is meant to be enjoyed. Cuddle your spouse, flirt with him or her regularly, crack jokes and laugh like kids regularly. Social media is not helping matters, as we now cuddle, joke, in fact make love on the internet...this is really ANNOYING. Let's be conscious of each others feelings and go practical in expressing it. 

To the Charming women out there, please I know our men can get on our nerves at times (and we also do to them...lol) never use your precious gift as a punishment for your husbands. Do the needful and settle matters amicably.... I know it's not easy, but WE can if we set our minds to it. 

Our children takes cue from our loving and romance filled life. They grow up too to be loving and appreciative kids. This will also help them in their own relationships

Never reject your man or woman in time of need o ...don't say I didn't tell you ☺☺...lots of love...

Be Vulnerable as Wives and Husbands To Solidify Your Marriage

I know that in this part of the world, Africans especially the women are expected be respectful and submissive to their spouses. However, with the challenging situations and state of the economy presently in the country and the world at large, so many homes are getting the bad vibes of the situation. Depression and frustration is setting into various homes and families leading to a lot of deadly and ungodly act by men and women, young and old.  

How can we still retain our sanity and help each other as couples not to be swallowed up by the moment in our homes and families. We can still be as loving, caring, sexy and best of parents as we wish to be by just choosing to be VULNERABLE.

VULNERABILITY is a way of expressing your weaknesses and fears, feelings, needs respectfully and apologizing where and when necessary. 

A vulnerable statement sounds better when delivered with a genuine non-threatening tone of voice. 

Scene 1:The husband work seems to be taking greater priority than the needs of his wife

Approach: "Darling (his pet name) sometimes i feel that I' m an unlovable wife, and I'm afraid that you think that I'm lousy. I know that yo have a desire to do well in your work, but I do feel the need for your love and affection, because it gives me security. And sometimes, when you constantly work throughout most evenings, and are not home with me, it makes me feel unloved and uncared for and reinforces those negative thoughts I have about myself, I need you and I want to be with you."

What Kind of Friend Are You?

So many of us tend to socialize a lot and make friends easily while some find it difficult to do so. It is not that they are not qualified or have what it takes to make friends easily but they are just not wired for it...lol..

However the question is 'What kind of Friend Are You?' We will be composing different types of friends and it is now left for you to answer sincerely the kind of friend you are to someone else....

Do you still remember how it was like meeting your first friend?

Not likely. You were probably five or six years-old and met at school. He/She liked sand, kicking ball,  You liked sand and kicking balls too. 

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However, as an adult, making friends like that isn't so easy. But something that is really important is appreciating the friendships we DO have. So as you read this piece, kindly tag or share with any friend(s) (on FB, Instagram, Watsapp etc) you have that might fit these categories, and let them know who they are! Feel free to comment and add any other types of friendships I might have missed (I know there are so many!)

I am declaring today as "Friend Greeting Day!" So let's begin...

THE ONLINE-ONLY FRIEND

This type of friend is met online through some sort of chat group or forum. You've never met in real life, and quite possibly never will. YET, you feel like you've known this person your entire life and feel safe asking them absurd questions / sharing your deepest darkest secrets. Perhaps it's the slight anonymity of the friendship that allows you to be so vulnerable.  

THE PARTY FRIEND

A friend you call when you want to unwind and have a sure good time. This is the friend who says "yes" to everything. This friend might also get you into trouble, but it's always totally worth it.

Be Careful Before You Say I Do...

Only few people truly consider sickness and suffering when picking a soulmate. Instead a lot of consideration is made on how the other person might look in the morning or what bad habits they might have or how they will look like in their old age. 

I have a couple of friends who say they consider greatly how their wives will look when old and funny enough some of them go to the extent of checking out their girlfriends mother to have a preview of what future hold for them...(hilarious) The female are not left out of course....

Also on the list is what offspring they could produce or what extended family they might bring to the reunion, and what Genotype is their partner (AA, AS, SS etc). 

Yet few people consider a vital question - can I suffer with this person?  It sounds like the beginning of another marriage joke, but it's not.  It's a real question and one which should be explored by every dating couple.

Suffering is a part of life. The older a person gets, the more we realize that suffering is not a rare occurrence, but is a common aspect of our lives.

It is pertinent to note that sorrow comes in many forms, yet it is guaranteed to come.  WATCH OUT: Not everyone suffers well. Some live in denial and unable to confront the deep realities of life. Some live in despair, unable to recognize the convergence of laughter and tears. Only few have the grace to suffer well. Those who do suffer well are a well-spring of life and faith. 

Sincerely speaking, who do you want holding your hand when the test says "cancer?" 

On whose shoulder do you want to lean when the doctor says, "We've done all we can?"

With whom do you want to lay beside when you don't know where your child is or if they will ever come home?

When your world turns upside down,

Renewing our Marriage Vows @18-Mr & Mrs Chukwuma

Happy Easter to all our charming friends and families. We are mega excited to share another love story of 18 years filled with solid friendship. Yours truly reports Mr & Mrs Chukwumah as they renew their marriage vows...Enjoy...

Funmi's Charm:Please let us meet you?

Our names are Emmanuel and Rosemary Chukwumah. I am into projects development and media relations while my wife is into events management and Decoration.

How many years have you been married and when?: We have been married for 18 years now. We got married on the 17th April 1999.

Funmi's Charm: What has been your experience so far?:Marriage is great, our experience is been awesome, having our friendship  in check and  spurring one another towards love and good deeds, not running each other down.

Funmi's Charm: What has parenting been like? Parenting we can tell you is tough our parents tried a lot for, when you have teenage kids thats when parenting is more difficult, but with God in the picture it is possible.

Funmi's Charm: Who is more romantic?

Emmanuel: I am more romantic
Rosemary: Well, I agree with him ..smiles..

Funmi's Charm: Word of advise to young marrieds or Engaged couple?

Our advice for the young marrieds ..Be great friends, always be open to each other through ,great communication, use Godly standard always in all your  dealings

Funmi's Charm: What are the 3 things you love about your spouse?
Emmanuel: I love her services for God, home management, and good communication attribute.

Rosemary: He is hardworking, Godly  and caring.

Funmi's Charm:Who is Your role model? The Bible standard our model.

Thank you.

Congratulations to you both. Wishing you many beautiful and charming years ahead together!

Hurray! Adeseye Elumaro Celebrate @ 6

Hurray! Adeseye Elumaro clocked 6 years old on Friday April 14th, 2017. It was a joyful moment for the family who expressed their gratitude to God.

Happy birthday Adeseye, wishing you all the good things God has destined and plan for your life. Do enjoy a fabulous day today and always.

The celebration continues in church where she had a great time with her friends and family. Nice one girls.

Photos of ecent

Unveiling Mofifoluwa Opadayo the beautiful Princess

                                

The beautiful naming ceremony of Mofifoluwa Esther born into the family of Mr & Mrs Niyi Opadayo was held today 14th April, 2017.
                    
                              Cute Mofifoluwa      
                    
                     Mofifoluwa and Charming Mum

A special naming ceremony was held in absential for the cute baby in Unilag Estate, Magodo, Lagos Nigeria and concurrently in United States of America where she is preaently with her mother.

The proud father in his words is thankful to God for the arrival of the baby girl after having two handsome boys. He was quite elated with the turn out of guests who came to celebrate their bundle of joy with them.

Guests were treated to sumptuous meals and assorted drinks. The DJ was all hands on deck keeping guests thrilled with great music collections.

Photos of event below:

                        Dad & Mofifoluwa siblings

         Mr Niyi with guest @ the event 

We @ Funmi's Charm welcome the new bundle of joy and congratulates the family. Cheers!

Our Love Story @20 - The Adefolus

Olubunmi and Olabode Adefolu today celebrates their love as they marked their 20 years anniversary. The love shared by this beautiful couple came to play as yours truly had a time out with them. Join us as we take you all through the journey of their love and what has kept them waxing strong....

Funmi's Charm:Please let us meet you?

Our names are Olabode Sunday Adefolu and Olubunmi Esther Adefolu. Bunmi is a seasoned and certified HR practitioner and into Baking while Bode is the CEO of Folub Eletrik Servz.

Funmi's Charm: Let us into your love story?

Ours is a story of true love and friendship. We met during our secondary school days in 1985, as writing pals. We enjoyed writing poems and love songs. Though Bunmi is quite shy but derived joy in reading love letters. This friendship was kept for so long, always longing to have each other back from higher institution. Even when Bode got his first job with Lever Brothers Lagos in 1991 the writing continued.

Funmi's Charm: How long have you been married and when precisely? 

We have been married for the past 20 years,12th April 1997. It has been a jolly time full of its learning, unlearning and relearning one another. I was attracted by his handsome look, any woman would die for it. Then other qualities  came out like godliness, doggedness, goal-getter, caring and love for others. He is friendly and accommodating, as well no nonsense man.

Funmi's Charm: What has been your experience so far @20 years together?

My experience can't be written but will touch on them. Living together has been a joyous thing. He takes care of his home, provides for the children and I. He is always looking out for our best. He loves his children so much and spends time with them. He is my friend and we discuss everything. Nothing is hidden in the relationship, even during our rocking times, he came back humbled and loving. We share every moment together. Wherever I go, he goes with me. We are just a unity in everything. Our finances are both managed by ourselves. We talked through every spending, investment, giving and there this strong bond between us. I give glory to God about it. We shared our struggles and we fight it together. As most convenient, we read bible and pray together over many years till now. We challenged each other on diff situations and helped each other to mature.

Funmi's Charm: What has parenting been like?

We thank God for blessing us with 3 handsome boys, Bolaji, Bayo and Bobola. The first 2 are in university and it was not a joke raising these intelligent boys. My husband and I, started early with them by reading bedtime stories, bible stories at nights. We taught them ways of the Lord Jesus. We didn't spare the rod when they go wrong. We only gave them necessities and did not indulge them. We carried along on family finances and affairs in the house. We are a bond too with them. We thought them to be domesticated as boys and also revered God. It has not been an easy task but God has helped us thus far. The Church was another community we used to raise them and it has paid off

Funmi's Charm: Who is more romantic?

Bummi: Romance is from both sides. Of course, men can't be as good until a woman initiates it. I never ceased to tell my husband that I want him to be more romantic. I say it the way I want it and he tried his best to please me. It is been a working relationship where we help ourselves to get to climax of our love life and friendship

Bode: My wife is more romantic and this has rob off on me overtime.

Funmi's Charm: Word of advise to young marrieds or Engaged couple?

Bunmi: My advise to young marrieds or those desiring to get married is to marry their friends. Friendship n love get things done. Don't marry for money nor beauty but a man or woman who truly cares. Don't hide anything from one another. Talk together about everything and preserve with one another, in need and plenty

Bode: my advice to young marrieds is to be patience with one another as friends and learn to forgive easily while for about to is to marry their friends.

Funmi's Charm: What are the 3 things you love about your spouse?

Bunmi: I love my husband for his love for God and his people. Love him for his hardwork and forward thinking. Finally for his love for me and the children.

Bode: I love her sincerity/openness, her extra mile spirit and dedication to our love and family.

We at Funmi's Charm celebrate you and wish you many beautiful and charming years ahead together!

Are You Stressed and Emotionally Drained-Let Essential Oil do the Magic!

There is increasing evidence to suggest that stress features significantly in the lives of many women, whether they are single, married or co-habiting, and whether or not they have children. Many women are finding it increasingly difficult to manage work and home commitment, leisure time and relationships and these stress are often multiplied when a woman has children. 

Perhaps, stress

Sex is Vitally Important in Marriage!

God created sex, there is nothing ugly or unholy about it especially when it is not abused. It is created to be enjoyed by married couple only to express love between a man and his wife. It is vitally important in marriage!

Over the years I have been privileged to meet couples with various issues regarding their sexual relationship. The stories that couples tell me about their sexual difficulties vary, but most of them goes like this: He wants more sex and she doesn’t. He says he needs sex to feel close and she doesn’t see why her snuggling, cuddling and pecks she does around the house doesn’t do it for him. On the other hand, she says she needs to feel close first to have sex and he doesn’t see why sex doesn’t help her to feel close.

At the end of the day, she doesn’t see why sex is so important to him, anyway.

ICOC Ikeja & PPFN Free Cervical Screening Session

International Church of Christ (ICOC) Ikeja in junction with PPFN (Planned Parenthood Federation of Nigeria) recently under her Cervical Screening & Preventive Therapy Program gave a talk and free screening to women in the Ikeja facility of the Church today.

The awareness is essential for women to know their status which will help in preventing any future development of Cervical Cancer and untimely death. The turnout of participant was impressive.

Dr Titi Aghoghovbia

PPFN Representative

Speaking at the event, one of the participant, commended the initiative by ICOC church and PPFN to ensure the well-being of women. 

A training session on Family Planning was also given by Dr Titi Aghoghovbia, a trained and seasoned Pediatric consultant, who took her time to educate all participants on the importance of Family planning and child spacing.

PPFN, is a private, not-for-profit organization founded in the late 1950s, with the mission to promote adoption of child spacing and contraceptive practices among individuals and couples.

Photo reel from event….

Anjolaoluwa Lamidi The Beautiful Princess unveiled

Born to the beautiful family of Mr and Mrs Lamidi, is our beautiful princess Anjolaoluwa.

The christening was very special with notable people from every part of Lagos and its environs witnessing the occassion and celebtating with the family. Among the attendees is His Royal Highness, The Olowu of Owu, Ijebu Land, grandfather of the baby.

A great host and hostess they were, as guests were well attended to. See more pictures...