When you love your husband and want to make him happy, you will fulfill his needs. Doing so does not make you inferior to him.
Are you doing that?
Unselfishness is the key to a successful marriage. If you can put your spouse's needs above your own, you are on the right track. Having the desire to fulfill your husband's needs is in no way submitting yourself to an inferior role as a wife. If you truly love your spouse, then you want to make him happy, and these five things generally make men happy - simple as that. Love me love my pet!
As different as their needs may seem; however, according to Willard F. Harley Jr., most men have the same basic needs. While each person is unique, these needs are what most men pick on average.
Companionship
My husband and I barely have things in common, especially when it comes to hobbies. We enjoy doing our own things - which can be good in a marriage. I am a dance freak, my husband is not and so on. But when we spend time together doing what he likes, it's often a win-win. Show your husband you care about him by showing some interest in his hobbies. Be his companion and enjoy being in his company. He may even reciprocate and spend the day doing what you want to do!
Sexual fulfillment
I know this can be a touchy subject, but it's an important one. Learn to never treat intimacy like a
game - to never withhold it as punishment (please settle rift and have fun). Doing so only intensifies feelings of negativity and resentment. Intimacy brings couples together better than anything, and if it's important to your husband, it needs to be important to you. Whether or not marital intimacy is special depends on the attitude and effort of those involved.
I know this can be a touchy subject, but it's an important one. Learn to never treat intimacy like a
game - to never withhold it as punishment (please settle rift and have fun). Doing so only intensifies feelings of negativity and resentment. Intimacy brings couples together better than anything, and if it's important to your husband, it needs to be important to you. Whether or not marital intimacy is special depends on the attitude and effort of those involved.
Admiration
In a healthy relationship, your husband is doing his part - whether that's having a career, going to school, self employed, etc. Most of his actions may go unnoticed. For example, if your husband does school runs, works 9-10 hours a day, then spends his evenings going to school. You may not physically see how much your husband does for your family every day, which can make his efforts easier to forget - out of sight, out of mind. Remember, as often as possible, show and tell your husband how much you love and appreciate all he does for you and the family.
In a healthy relationship, your husband is doing his part - whether that's having a career, going to school, self employed, etc. Most of his actions may go unnoticed. For example, if your husband does school runs, works 9-10 hours a day, then spends his evenings going to school. You may not physically see how much your husband does for your family every day, which can make his efforts easier to forget - out of sight, out of mind. Remember, as often as possible, show and tell your husband how much you love and appreciate all he does for you and the family.
Domestic support
Domestic support involves the creation of a peaceful and well-managed home environment. You and your husband may share household chores and other home responsibilities equally, or your husband may need you to handle these responsibilities more often if he is busy handling others. Again, in a healthy relationship, your husband should be doing his part. If this is the case, then hubby expect you to fulfill his needs by cooking meals, washing dishes, keeping your home clean, etc.
Domestic support involves the creation of a peaceful and well-managed home environment. You and your husband may share household chores and other home responsibilities equally, or your husband may need you to handle these responsibilities more often if he is busy handling others. Again, in a healthy relationship, your husband should be doing his part. If this is the case, then hubby expect you to fulfill his needs by cooking meals, washing dishes, keeping your home clean, etc.
A Charming and attractive spouse
As a wife of almost 10years, I know how familiar and comfortable wives can get with their husbands - which is great. But, then we start taking things for granted. As a mother of three, I know how easy it is for us women to stay in our pajamas (even wrappers☺) all day, how luxurious it is to wait and shower when we actually have five minutes of privacy. Some days are like that, and that's OK, but don't let this type of thing become a habit. Put effort into making yourself charming and attractive to your spouse (seduce him, he is yours☺). Schedule a few minutes before your husband's arrival to freshen yourself up applying a body splash at least and await your Prince Charming. You sure will notice a positive difference in his mood when he comes home. Plus: it makes you feel great, too.
As a wife of almost 10years, I know how familiar and comfortable wives can get with their husbands - which is great. But, then we start taking things for granted. As a mother of three, I know how easy it is for us women to stay in our pajamas (even wrappers☺) all day, how luxurious it is to wait and shower when we actually have five minutes of privacy. Some days are like that, and that's OK, but don't let this type of thing become a habit. Put effort into making yourself charming and attractive to your spouse (seduce him, he is yours☺). Schedule a few minutes before your husband's arrival to freshen yourself up applying a body splash at least and await your Prince Charming. You sure will notice a positive difference in his mood when he comes home. Plus: it makes you feel great, too.
Enjoy your weekend!
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